Here’s a Simple Way to Do The Work
Find a stressful situation and ask yourself, “What am I wanting?” Then write down your wants and question them using the four questions and turnarounds of The Work.
If I feel stress, I’m wanting something to be different than the way it is. All I have to do is identify that want and question it in order to I come back to peace.
It Really Is that Simple
Even if I fill in a full Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet, it’s just a more detailed version of writing down my wants.
For example, Line 2: “I want them to _____.” Line 3: “They should/n’t _____.” Line 4: “I need them to ______.”
“I need” and “They should” are basically variations on “I want.”
So Look for the Want (or Need)
Sometimes my wants are about someone else. That’s when I use a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet to write them down.
And sometimes my wants don’t involve a person at all, or don’t fit the worksheet. That’s when I write my wants as one-liners or underlying beliefs.
One way or the other, I write my wants down and question them.
Test It Out and Let Me Know what you Find
A life without wants is a peaceful life.
Have a great week,
Todd
“Without a motive, the pain disappears.” Byron Katie. Question Your Thinking, Change The World.
